Per-nal

Zerayn D.

Customary when you are an older sibling, your parents would always ask you to “man-uya”, which can be translated as “giving way to others”,  “being generous” or “being considerate” to younger siblings or other younger children.

When I was a young, bright-eyed eight-year-old, I unexpectedly found myself participating in a bible quiz led by missionaries from Korea. My knowledge of the scriptures was tested, and to my surprise, I emerged victorious, winning myself a cuddly, furry teddy bear as my prize. It was a heartwarming moment, one that I look back on fondly as a cherished memory from my childhood.

When I went home, my mom asked me to give it to my younger sister instead of me, cherishing my price of victory. She told me, “man-uya ka; i-uyam sin ading mo” (Be generous and considerate to your younger sister.) I did so as I was told, but I would always miss that teddy bear.

The practice of “man-uya” has left an enduring mark on my life. It taught me that in times of conflict, extending grace and consideration can bring about a sense of reconciliation and justice. Though it can be challenging to put this principle into practice, it is a powerful lesson that has guided me through difficult situations. Embracing compassion and empathy has proven to be a transformative force in my life, vindicating my belief that kindness can indeed prevail over discord and strife.